The issue with baggage is… it destabilizes our footing.
It creates subtle shifts in judgement that can have profound effects on our performance and the emotions and stress of the people around us.
What if you could predictably and consistently stabilize your management presence?
What people want most from their managers is these three things:
- People want managers who make rational decisions with certainty
- People want managers who are kind
- People want and who are connected to their needs
When you are destabilized by your baggage, you’re not in control. Your performance suffers, and your self-worth decreases. You enter a downward spiral until some piece of good news lifts you out of it. You do this under the spiteful watch of those you work with.
What if you could control your stability, and enter a never ending climb upwards, with very few or tiny spirals? The spirals are then simply signals meant to lift you from harm’s way.
Find your footing in the trash.
When you drop your baggage, you release and redirect energy towards more productive efforts. As you toss your baggage in the trash, you increasingly stabilize your footing and bring yourself back to centre.
Let Go of What’s Not Serving You
The baggage I’m talking about comes in 3 forms: Clutter, Tolerations and Limiting Beliefs.
When you learn how to regulate this baggage, you become more predictably and consistently stable – not just as a manager, but also as a friend, spouse, partner and parent. Your judgment becomes clearer, with positive profound effects.
Let’s start with clutter. Clutter takes energy. Whether you have to exert extra effort to find things, or simply get distracted by the stuff that has no relevance to you anymore. Mess creates stress. Many people feel that clearing clutter and organizing their environment provides an accelerating relief sensation.
Choose one part of your life that feels cluttered. Dedicate a chunk of time to clear it out this week.
Tolerations: Tolerations are elements of your environment or relationships that are counter-serving who you are. For example, you may be tolerating poor punctuality from your team, or laziness from your kids. Tolerations are draining!
Here’s what to do. ZAP your tolerations. Identify one toleration each day that is not serving you, or that is counter-serving you. Address it assertively. Set an intention to Zap it, and then place attention on it until it’s gone.
I recently tolerated an infestation of gnats in my plants for 3 months before I decided to take notice and get rid of them. With quiet persistence and attention, my home is now gnat free, and my energy towards my work is much more powerful without the presence of bugs in my peripheral vision.
Limiting Beliefs: Limiting Beliefs are the trickiest of all. Limiting Beliefs are baggage that you have carried for years, likely since childhood. They are the trickiest because they can be both conscious or sub-conscious. Often, we aren’t even aware that we have limiting beliefs until we realize that we aren’t creating the life or the environment we want.
95% of who we are resides in our sub-conscious. Our subconscious processes 11 million bits per second. Our conscious mind processes only 40 bits per second. If you are not achieving your highest potential, in all likelihood you are limited by deep subconscious beliefs.
To trash your limiting beliefs, follow these steps.
- Fine tune your inner ear. Your inner ear does not refer to your inner ear canal. No, I’m talking about the metaphysical inner ear - the inklings and feelings that you brush aside constantly because they don’t suit your current mental state. Pay closer attention to your fleeting thoughts, and any physical signals of discomfort in your body. These are signals to your subconscious mind.
- Change your beliefs to change what you manifest in your environment. For every situation you encounter that is counter-serving what you want, ask yourself these three questions: Why am I experiencing this now? What belief am I perpetuating that is allowing this to happen? How could I change my belief to get what I really want?
- Proactively create new beliefs. You may have heard of a thing calledaffirmations. Affirmations are positive language that you create to rewire your beliefs. For example, you might feel that you are not as skilled or qualified as one of your colleagues. You would create an affirmation to say "I am a competent and powerful professional".
Science has now shown that creating affirmations and repeating them to yourself daily actually rewires and creates new neurons in your brain that represents the ‘taking hold’ of a new belief.
Stabilizing your management style takes work and careful attention to details that usually go unnoticed. The payoff however is clear: a stronger presence at home and at the office, and a more fulfilling and happy existence.