It takes many of us many years and challenges to realize the one big truth within the big lie we’ve been taught…
Ok, I know what you’re thinking. "Mary must have really drank some kind of optimism kool-aid that has twisted her mind straight out of reality."
Perhaps that is partially true. But what others don’t know is that your environment is the true controller of your destiny and you are the architect of your environment.
The Truth About Control
It is true that it is incredibly frustrating and mostly impossible to control other people. Other people feed us, shelter us and pay us. Other people keep us safe from the unknown world of unemployment. Other people manage us and tell us what to do.
You can see why people believe that responsibility for their life fulfillment and happiness rests squarely on the shoulders of other people.
But what about when you take the reigns on your environment and begin to architect the support mechanisms that will bring you closer to the fulfillment of your own personal values and ambitions?
Start controlling the controllables, and everything else will fall into place.
How To Architect a Winning Environment
There are three basic questions to ask yourself as you start to design your environment.
- What do I truly want for myself?
- What is missing from my environment that would support me getting what I want?
- What am I tolerating in my environment that is draining my energy or holding me back from what I want?
Next create a chart containing questions #2 and #3 along the top, and the following 9 environments in the left column:
- Inspiration Environment - where you get your ideas and strokes of genius from
- Financial Environment - money, wealth, budget
- Relationship Environment - family, close friends and close colleagues
- Network Environment - professional connections and community
- Physical Environment - places and things
- Body Environment - your energy, health, appearance and clothing
- Self Environment - your strengths, talents and character
- Spiritual Environment - deep connections, sacred spaces and nature
- Technology Environment - electronic devices and virtual spaces
Begin to answer the three questions through the lens of each environment.
Where you find gaps or tolerations, create a statement that will empower what you would prefer to have instead.
For example, let’s say you wish to get a promotion at work, and when you look at your relationship environment you notice that you have been tolerating a boss who is uninterested in you, and there is nobody else around who cares if you progress. A statement that empowers your preference might sound like this: "Expand my Supporters by Sharing my Strengths".
Finally, create an action plan that is inspired by your statements. A statement like the one above might inspire the action of "use my socializing strengths to meet new people of influence who can help me progress".
A quick assessment of your environment will quickly reveal areas of your life that you have been leaving unattended. Attend to those spaces the way you would attend to your garden or house chores this weekend. Do a cleanup of your 9 environments, and watch what you want in life unfold before you.